I learned a life lesson the hard way… through being a part of one team or another almost my entire life as well as coaching multiple teams and running my own successful businesses.Once again, I speak for me. No one else in the world speaks for me, acts for me, or lives for me and I don’t act, live or speak for anyone else when it comes to their personal business. I don’t say who people can be friends with, or who they can hang out with, I know that I am only responsible for me and the only one in charge of me. There are a ton of sides to every story depending on how your looking at it, what your own goals, morals, values, etc are, what you think happened, what actually happened, what your mental status, physical status, etc is at the time, and so on.
I also know, unless someone has a gun to your head, they cant make you do anything, guilt is not a gun! You have to learn to manage yourself and be responsible for yourself once you turn 18, until you can do that, you are a pretend adult, I think I was a pretend adult until I was in my late 20’s. I had a lot of success early on, but took life for granted and the day I woke up and realized I am the only one who is responsible for me and the one who cares for me the most, and started taking actions like this to protect me, I became a real adult… and a better, stronger person and advocate for myself.
I saw this story circulating on fb this morning, about a girl who decided that she didnt want to spend time with her sister for her own reasons, but then was upset that the sister was mad at her choice. But the deal is… you can only control yourself, so if that person, even family is detrimental to you, make a new family, and if you choose to stay, then own that behavior. Both sisters were upset and both allowed the situation in their own way. Which ever way you choose to be, own it, because you dont own anyone else. Nope not even your spouse.
Wisdom of Ingle –
My daughter Barby and I were driving across New Mexico. As we were driving along, the conversation turned to things, we had learned about life and living. Barby suggested that we put this knowledge into a book called “Wisdom of Ingle” or, as my father would say, “You’re Active as a Cow Fall down and Get up in Half a Day”. On my 60th birthday, Tim said that, I know something that most other people do not know about raising kids or that I was very lucky that my kids turned out as good as they did. My answer was that I had set out to teach them certain principles of life so there was a method to what I did. The stories that I tell might change from time to time because of the point I am trying to make. All of the stories are true, just approached from different angles as needed to make a point. I do acknowledge that God led the way. This book is a combination of the Wisdom of Ingle and the leadership and plan of God that is unfolding for our family.
